Rules

1. Purpose

The primary purpose of doo.dad is to be a place to have fun with friends, in a place that is at least somewhat aesthetically inspired by the PC BBS scene of the late 1990s.

However, while we appreciate the aesthetics of the 90's BBS scene, the culture was often a bit crap. Being made to feel unwelcome for who you are is not conducive to fun; as such, we are committed to providing a friendly, safe and welcoming environment for all if our members, regardless of their identity or circumstances.

2. Code of conduct

Members of doo.dad must adhere to the following standards of behavior when:

  • interacting with other members
  • interacting with the general public through one of doo.dad's services
  • publishing content hosted on doo.dad
  • engaging in doo.dad community activities, whether in meatspace or cyberspace

If a doo.dad member violates this code of conduct, the administrators may take any action they deem appropriate, up to and including a temporary ban or permanent expulsion from doo.dad (meaning your user account would be revoked) without warning. Anyone asked to stop behavior in violation of the code is expected to comply immediately, and to not repeat the behavior in the future.

If you are subject to or witness a violation of the code of conduct, are unsure if a particular action would be considered a violation, or have any other concerns, please see the Contact Information section below.

2.1 Respect others

  • When communicating with or about other people, always use their preferred names and pronouns
  • Don't argue with people about their own lived experiences, or about what they say is going on in their own head
  • Don't flirt with or make sexual or romantic advances on people, unless they have clearly and unambiguously indicated that they are open to you doing so
  • Don't flirt with or make sexual or romantic advances on minors, under any circumstances
  • Don't post other people's personal information
  • Don't share pictures of other people without their permission
  • Don't make unsolicited or mean comments about other people's bodies or appearances
  • Don't disclose private communications with other members without their permission
  • Don't condescend, mansplain, or speak down to other people
  • Don't mock other peoples' level of knowledge or skill
  • Answer questions honestly and in good faith, or don't answer them at all
  • If someone tells you to stop talking to them about something, stop
  • If someone tells you to leave them alone, leave them alone
  • Even if you think someone is being unreasonable about policing your behavior, please stop the behavior, and contact an administrator to mediate

2.2 Don't be hateful

Members of doo.dad shall not discriminate, nor use any invective or slurs based on:

  • Race, ethnicity, nationality, ancestry, or genetics
  • Gender or sexual identity
  • Religion, creed, spirituality, or lack thereof
  • Neurodivergence, or lack thereof
  • Medical condition, disability, or lack thereof
  • Body type or choice of diet
  • Relationship status, monogamy, polyamory, abstinence, promiscuity, or lack thereof

2.3 Don't start shit

  • Don't harass people
  • Don't start fights
  • Don't bother people that don't want to be bothered
  • Don't spread gossip or rumors about people
  • Don't spread misinformation
  • Don't make threats
  • Don't deliberately make others feel unsafe

2.3.1 The one exception

When you play our games, do so in the spirit of friendly and fair competition; you may kick ass and chew bubblegum when it is appropriate to do so in the context of a game, as long as you're not gratuitously mean about it.

2.4 Don't abuse the services

  • Be respectful of other users when you use our server's resources -- this is a small server, and everyone is sharing it; don't bogart the CPU
  • Don't try to break our services, or break into other people's accounts
  • Don't attempt to impersonate administrators or other users
  • Don't pick an abusive username, or one that might mislead people into thinking that you're staff
  • Don't use our services as a platform to launch attacks on other servers
  • Don't use our services to send spam
  • Don't use our services for storing or distributing pirated software, movies, or other material that you don't have the rights to
  • Promptly let an administrator know about any security problems that you find

2.5 No graphic sex or violence in public or common areas

Do not use our services to share or store sexually-explicit content in a way that is publicly-accessible or that might be accidentally stumbled upon by another member. There are many places on the internet that specialize in those sorts of things, but this is not one of them.

While we seek to be a sex-positive space in general, we would also like to be able to be welcoming to younger members of our community. There are also certain legal considerations in many jurisdictions with regard to hosting pornography, which the site administration would prefer not to have to deal with. As such, we ask that you limit anything involving graphic depictions or descriptions of sexual activity to private conversations between consenting adults.

For the mental health of other members and our administrators, we must ask that you extend the same consideration to graphic depictions or descriptions of violence.

In general, when you're here, try to keep things somewhere between a PG-13 and an R rating.

2.6 Don't bring trouble here

This server is hosted at Jordan's house. If you do something on doo.dad that has the potential to get Jordan in legal trouble, or his house raided by law enforcement, he probably won't want to host it anymore.

Please do not act in a way that will bring the law to our doorstep.

2.7 Don't be a jerk, or worse yet, a rules lawyer

This code of conduct contains an extensive list of unacceptable behaviors, but it is not exhaustive.

Members who think of new and innovative ways of being a jerk that are not explicitly prohibited above will be rewarded for their creativity by being banned and called out by name in a future revision of this document.

3. Privacy (or rather, the lack thereof)

Most of doo.dad runs on a small server in Jordan's basement, connected to the internet via a fiber line from AT&T. Everybody logs into the same server. The server's disk is not encrypted; in the event that the server is stolen or seized, whoever takes possession of it will likely be able to access all member data. Most communication between the server and the outside world is encrypted, but that encryption would not prevent one of our administrators from snooping on your traffic, if they wanted to.

We will not willingly share your email address, personal information, or any of your data with any third parties, but we have not taken any extraordinary steps to secure or protect this data, beyond following sensible system administration practices on a stock install of Debian Linux.

In the spirit of openness and sharing, your home directory was created as world-readable; if you want your files to be private from other users, you had better check the permissions. Even so, that would not prevent a curious administrator from reading the files you store on our services.

We reserve the right to contact you via email using the address associated with your account, either concerning issues with your account, or with announcements regarding doo.dad.

3.1 Data that we collect

  • We keep logs of who logged into any of our systems, and when.
  • We keep access logs on our websites, including IP addresses, for both logged-in and logged-out users.
  • We do not use any third-party analytics services, but we may use a self-hosted instance of Plausible Analytics on some of our websites.
  • Your shell is likely configured to keep a log of the commands that you run in its history.
  • Our services will retain any data that you upload to them, for as long as you choose to keep it there.
  • We currently retain logs for however long the default configuration of our services retains them; the subtext is that we have not looked into log retention at all, and probably won't unless it becomes a problem.
  • We reserve the right to (but do not promise to) make backups of the data that you upload to or create using our services, and retain it for up to a year.

3.2 Where do we store your data?

Most of your data is stored on a small server in Jordan's basement, in Cook County, Illinois, United States.

Some of your data (services that rely on Postgres) is stored on a larger server in the same location.

Most of our web traffic passes through a virtual private server hosted by Vultr in Chicago.

4. Data access requests or account deletion

Upon request, we will provide you with a complete copy of all data related to your account, and/or delete all data related to your account from our systems, to the best of our abilities, as time allows. Please keep in mind that this will be a manual process, and that nobody gets paid for working on doo.dad. Please also note that for data access requests, you can get almost everything we would give you yourself, by downloading the contents of your home directory.

If you would like to make such a request, please see the Contact Information section below.

5. Contact Information

Jordan is currently the only administrator of doo.dad.

The best way to contact them regarding site matters is via email at jordan AT webb.haus.

6. Changes to this document

The administration of doo.dad may choose to amend this document as necessary. Changes to this document will be announced on the news section of the doo.dad website and upon login to your shell account.

7. Disclaimers

These services are currently being run as an experiment. While we will try to provide advance notice in the event that it becomes necessary to shut doo.dad down, we can not promise that we will be able to.

We can not be held responsible for the loss of any data you upload to or create with using doo.dad's services. If any of your data on doo.dad is important to you, you should make your own backup of it in a different location.

These services are currently being run for the benefit of the members of a private, invitation-only club. Your access may be revoked at any time, for any reason, without notice.

8. License & attribution

Parts of this document are based on the tilde.town code of conduct, which itself is based on citizencodeofconduct.org (which appears to be a dead link at the time of this writing), under the terms of the Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike license.